The mom of four described her difficulty saying “no” to her kids in the latest episode of The Kardashians — but the pro says her lack of discipline will only make parenting more difficult in the long run.
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Parenting expert Kirsty Ketley explained how Kim Kardashian’s parenting style may hinder her kids in the futureCredit: Instagram/pierresnaps
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Kim admitted to struggling to disciple her four kids in the latest episode of The KardashiansCredit: Kim Kardashian/Instagram
Kim, 43, shares kids North, 10, Saint, 8, Chicago, 6, and Psalm, 5, with her ex-husband Kanye West.
Now a single mom, the TV personality has found herself juggling her family, law studies, reality show, and Skims business.
She was filmed breaking down over her children’s behavior during a phone call with an unnamed friend.
“I had a Zoom at the house with all my kids there, banging on the door, just screaming, and I was literally hiding in a bathroom with the door locked,” Kim said.
“I was just like, ‘I can’t believe this. I mean I can believe it, but that’s like my biggest nightmare.'”
The businesswoman expressed her desire to parent more like her younger sister.
“I want to be more strict like Khloe but I don’t know why I have a hard time just saying, ‘No is no,'” she said.
Parenting expert Kirsty Ketley explained that Kim likely has difficulty saying no to her kids now because she has rarely said it before.
Ketley acknowledged that saying “no” is not the easiest thing to tell children.
She pointed out that it is especially difficult for default parents like Kim.
Kirsty shared her take with The U.S. Sun…
Kim admitted that she has a hard time saying “no” to her kids and that she regrets that she is like that — something that a lot of parents will be able to relate to.
Saying “no” is not the easiest thing to say to kids, particularly if, like Kim, you are the default parent.
Add on top of that a crazy work schedule and opting for an easier life, is often just that: easier.
Being a “yes man” to your kids may feel easier in the moment, but it makes parenting more difficult in the long run and, crucially, it makes being a child harder.
How a parent responds to their child can affect what person they become later in life.
It all becomes on the child’s terms only, which is never a good place to end up in – for child or parent.
Kirsty Ketley
Always giving in to your kids and saying “yes” rather than “no,” sets kids up for a lifetime of high expectations.
A stark reality waits for children as they grow up and their parents must prepare them.
If a child has never been told they can’t have something or can’t do something, it makes it difficult for them to maintain
relationships, friendships, and co-work successfully.
Kids thrive on rules and boundaries as they navigate childhood.
These rules and boundaries will vary from family to family.
They don’t have to be uber-strict, but they need to be there and vitally, parents need to be consistent to make them work.
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Kim needs to tell her children ‘no’ more in order to prepare them for rejection in the real worldCredit: Twitter/@KimKardashian
This means not moving the goalposts or changing the sanctions, and sticking to the rules and boundaries.
Kim has admitted to doing this when attempting to disciple North in the most recent episode of The Kardashians.
“I took her phone, and after a day, I gave it to her. I’m such a pushover. But I took it for 24 hours,” she told her friend during a call.
When parents don’t stick to their side of the bargain, it is no wonder that kids don’t stick to their side.
It all becomes on the child’s terms only, which is never a good place to end up — for the child or parent.
Limits and consequences help children to learn to make good choices.
This life skill will impact their ability to say “no” in situations that may harm them.
Kim has the luxury of nannies and chefs to give her a helping hand in her home, but her kids still need her.
Kirsty Ketley
Giving in to a child all the time will lead them to feel less safe and secure because they don’t fully understand what is expected of them.
This then creates a pattern of tricky behaviors because children don’t know how best to manage their feelings and emotions.
Children who don’t experience discipline growing up often struggle in social situations.
It is hard when you are juggling work and your home life, especially as a single parent, but it is important to have one-on-one time with your children.
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Ketley recommended that Kim take a leaf out of sister Khloe’s book when it comes to disciplining her childrenCredit: Instagram/Kim Kardashian
This will help them have the security that they need and encourage the rules and boundaries to be followed.
Parent guilt is a very real thing, and Kim expressing her regret at not having the capacity to enforce boundaries with her kids, shows that.
Kim has the luxury of nannies and chefs to give her a helping hand in her home, but her kids still need her.
She should have the nannies take care of three of the kids while she has time with one.
It would be useful to ease that guilt and enforce good habits in her parent/child relationships.
Parenting is hard, no matter what your family set-up is, but it becomes easier when you have rules and boundaries firmly in place.
Taking a leaf out of Khloe’s book could be just the thing to help Kim feel more confident and empowered to be the parent she aspires to be.
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Kim admitted to confiscating North’s phone only to return it the next dayCredit: Instagram/kimkardashian
